What Does a Woman Need in Bed?

5 Things That Skyrocket Pleasure 

Many people are caught in doubt, wondering if they are good lovers. They are uncertain about what a woman needs in bed. Many men worry because of the attributes of their genitalia:

'With these sizes, how can I even score in bed?'

Still, many believe that solely the size of a man's 'tool' brings pleasure to a woman:

the bigger the member, the greater the pleasure.

However, this belief is completely mistaken.

Why? Because the size of the penis is just one of many factors that play a role in lovemaking.

So, what can truly make your time together unforgettable, and how can you genuinely take a woman to the heights of pleasure?

I've gathered 5 points that are far more important than size, which you can find out from my following video.

What does a woman need in bed?
Find out from this Awakening Sexuality Blog!

What does a woman need in bed? In the following 5 points, you can read more about the factors that are crucial during lovemaking, regardless of the penis size:

1. Technique – Develop Your Sexual Knowledge!
   Naturally, there are no universal rules for what's good for every woman. However, the more you know about

• how a woman's pleasure works,
• how to approach her,
• how to read her signals to understand when and what she's open to, and
• what types of touches and "techniques" exist and their possible effects, the better your shared experiences will be!

Where should you learn from?

• definitely not from porn!
  According to adult film actors, everything that happens in those films is to excite the viewer, not to provide pleasure to the performers. The visual tricks are just that – tricks that look good on camera but don't necessarily provide pleasure.

Instead of applying what you see in porn, learn from 'intimacy and sexual experts' – intimacy masseurs, sex coaches, people experienced in tantric teachings and lovemaking, sexual bodyworkers, and sex psychologists.

If you're interested in delving deeper into this topic, I warmly invite you to this free webinar! 'How to Skyrocket a Woman's Pleasure' free webinar for men by PoliLili Awakening Sexuality Blog I'm interested in the webinar!

2. It's Not Just About the Vagina!
   It's not just what you do with your penis during penetration! There are fingers, the tongue, the mouth – all of which can provide pleasurable sensations to your female partner in various ways.

Similarly, the female genitalia consist of different excitable areas. There's the clitoris, the labia minora, the labia majora – each can be caressed from the outside and inside – the mons pubis, the breasts - not just the nipples but the entire breast from all sides.

But, of course, we shouldn't forget about other potential erogenous zones: the neck, the shoulders, the entire back – which many women have told me they "go crazy for" if caressed, kissed, scratched, massaged -, or even the feet... and of course, the buttocks! What each person likes and in what combination is entirely individual.

However, it's a fact that most women find it difficult to achieve vaginal orgasm. Therefore, if you're really skilled in other areas and can identify your partner's excitement-triggering body parts and movements, then it won't really matter much what size life has blessed you with your penis.

It might not be your penis's attributes that create truly memorable lovemaking sessions with the lady, but she might be completely floored when you unleash your "sexual toolkit" in bed (or on the sofa)!

3. Attention During Sex, and Beyond
   How much do you pay attention to what the woman likes and how she likes it? Many women struggle to communicate what they like and what would feel good for them.

Didn't we learn this?
Didn't we have a good model?
Are we afraid of hurting the other person's feelings?

There's still a lot of inhibition and shame among women about fully embracing and expressing their desires.

If your partner is in this situation, finding it hard to talk about sexuality and her own desires, then it's crucial that you learn to pick up on her signals, especially those her body gives off. These subtle movements and gestures can be learned and interpreted!

On the other hand, paying attention to your own body and needs during these moments is equally vital! A partner who, while aiming to provide delightful moments for their significant other, can also indulge in their own pleasure, is very engaging in bed. Someone who enjoys what is being done to them and can communicate their desires is highly appreciated.

Respect your partner's body!
Along with communication, it's just as important to approach the other person and their body with respect. What does this mean?

If, for instance, the lady doesn't feel ready for penetration and needs more time to get in the mood, "foreplay" – I don't particularly like this term because what it refers to is just as much a part of sex – then believe and give her that time willingly!

You truly respect your partner when you trust that she knows her own body best and understands what feels good for her!

If you skip steps, or the pace is too quick for the woman, lacking the proper attunement, then you might end up having sex, but the trust she places in you will likely decrease. She learns that her needs aren't really being considered, leading to less satisfying sex over time. (This is, of course, much harder if the woman doesn't know what she likes in bed…)

It's thus essential to reach a point where your female partner feels safe and truly respected in terms of what she and her body desire.

4. Be Confident!
   A man who is confident and believes he is a good catch, with a satisfactory member – regardless of size or shape – is likely to be a much better partner than one who doesn't believe in himself. I'm talking about the healthy self-confidence that allows you to claim:

"I am a good catch, I am good in bed, and I know I am a satisfying lover to my girlfriend!"

Although it may not be easy, it's worth it to shed your inhibitions. A hesitant, fearful, ashamed, and inhibited person in bed will not be as good a partner in sex as they could be. Insecurity in bed can only lead to distrust: then, the atmosphere where either you or your partner can confidently express desires and surrender to pleasure is lost.

5. Communicate Directly and Honestly About Your Desires!
   It's crucial that you can express and let the woman know what you enjoy and what you want!

I've often encountered men who say: "Whatever you do is great, darling!" – but this doesn't give any direction.

So, tell her how you like it, what your penis prefers and where it's more sensitive, what you desire, and so on! Reading the Lingam Massage book and learning the movements that can pleasure your penis, and then showing and teaching these to your loved one can be very enriching!

Having an open and honest, taboo-free conversation about sex can bring you both more pleasure, as this way, you can give and receive exactly what you love!

If you embrace your desires, your partner will know what to do to gratify you. This can also make her more confident and enthusiastic!

In summary:
-  It's not the size of the penis that makes lovemaking unforgettable, as it's just a "tiny" factor among many.
- Paying attention, respecting your partner, educating yourself, having a variety of "tricks" and techniques at your disposal, and becoming more confident in your communication and expressing your desires are far more important.